Some time ago I wrote something about this pick-up artist trend.
Shortly after I got my hands on some of that material and spent some time on it, it was mostly videos.
Interesting stuff ! So, one night I went out clubbing all charged and I threw myself into the role. The point really is to appear energetic, playful, not needy, somewhat mysterious.. basically to give an interesting mix of a fun personality and constance to keep that going for a whole session while making progresses, earning the woman's respect and confidence.

With little effort I saw some promising results, but that really isn't rocket science. The first thing is to manage to be in a good mood or pretend to be (professional take !), then all it's needed is to try keep the wheel spinning, faster and faster.

Fast forward to yesterday. I went out and I had no intention to talk to anything or anyone I didn't know... that's the normal me 8)
One should be cool and social, but I don't give a crap. I have an attitude worse than a hot chick on a "proud owner of a golden pussy" power-trip.
It doesn't help that there scraps of the last relationship..

The routines, the way to present yourself, the pose, the things you say and so on.. they are all interesting things. There is a lot of truth into it. Though explanations could be synthesized a bit and, to some extent, the whole thing does seem a bit lame.

A lot of stress is put into the problem of anxiety of approach. In this case what Mystery and his gang say is that anxiety is a normal feeling and that it's a bump that one has to learn to overcome thanks to the comfort own his own earned "competence". With "competence" stressed over "confidence", as confidence could be just an illusion.

Recognizing the need for "competence" however is a further kick to one's confidence: now I understand that I just need to be competent, but I realize that I'm not competent and further lose confidence 8)
Those guys tell you you'll get competent after a year or so of spending 4 hours per day, 4 days per week, trying to hit on girls.. that's a long way to go !

Mr.Mystery gives "routines", but the setting is different in my case. I've some off the bat "value" as I'm an Italian in Japan, but I don't have fluency in the language to sneak those "demonstration of higher value" subtleties that one is supposed to. In fact a native language speaker will naturally think some foreigner is stupid just by the accent or a by a misplaced word.

But I'm honestly not even really concerned so much about picking up at all. I'm more concerned about boredom.. !
People tend to go the safe way, to go to the same places again and again, avoiding the risk of getting into a club with no action and basically missing the opportunity to take a chance. Every time me and my friend meet someone new, that person will take us to 2-3 new clubs. At first it's fun but then it becomes boring again. Novelty wears off very fast !

It's important to have fresh thoughts, fresh experiences, new stimulations to make advances at work as much as in life.
Yesterday I went out but there was no excitement. Maybe if 2-3 beautiful chicks accompanied me it would have been great, but eventually that would also turn boring. Boredom is a state of mind, breaking out of it is not easy.
My job is not boring, I get to do cool things, but my social life is definitely not that exciting (though 100 times better than it would have been in Rome). I recognize that it's my fault too (or entirely ?).

One thing this Mystery guy says is to entertain girl with crazy stories. Yesterday evening I was talking to a couple of close friends of mine and I realized that I had some wacky stories they didn't yet know about.
Things about ex girlfriends.. which makes me think, I guess somehow I often (not always 8) end up with the "crazy ones" because I don't want to get bored.. maybe the same way girls like "bad guys".

But you know it, this is just a load of bullshit 8)
All this comes from animal instincts, mating, that's all. ..so much for being romantic !

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